Thursday, 25 February 2010

The Theory of 'Balance'

There are some people who are born with the qualities of speaking like a shrink whenever and where ever possible.Whether the quality is good or bad depends on the situation. I am one such person.Me along with a few colleagues in my workplace were busy chitchatting ( This is something that we do extra.The company doesn't pay for it) when i came up with my new theory of 'Balance'. Before i start talking about it here, i just googled to find out if any such theory exist. And guess what, It lets first read what that theory definition says as per wikipedia.

Social balance theory is a class of theories within social network theory which attempts to describe how individual desires to reduce affective cognitive dissonance influence in a group of network structures, and that individuals expect to be exposed to balanced social situations. Social balance theory is a tool to observe a social group evolving to a balanced state. It originated in balance theory, as developed by psychologist Fritz Heider. Relations among certain people characterize interactions that occur within a social system. One important component among social agents is "sentiment". These sentiments can result in the emergence of two groups. Disliking exists between the two subgroups within liking agents.

Now that was Like me i assume 95% of the people would not have understood it.Getting back to my theory. I believe the whole universe is based on a simple concept called balance. There has to be balance in everything related to life.When one falls, to balance it out there is someone else who rises.One one poor person sweats there would be someone sitting in an AC office enjoying in place of him and drying his sweat out as there should be balance. I guess this made Einstein come up with his most famous theory that energy and mass are inter-convertible and the total amount of both is always same.

Its not something very uncommon. we face and see it daily in our lives but we hardly notice.We do the work but do not get the credit. Does that mean there is more work than balance. No ways, remember my theory of balance :-) . there is someone else who has taken the credit. Finally its balance. When a girl leaves you , there is someone else who would get her. Balance. When you enjoy the privileges of a servant, someone else slogs it out. Balance.When you lose money, someone earns.These are just a few small daily life examples that will help you relate what the theory is.So simple and yet so complicated.

So henceforth whenever you are down or low, remember that your time would come soon as there has to be balance. But as far as other examples are concerned, you would have to work hard boss otherwise someone else would take the good things to balance it out. After all for God the balance is on the society and not on individuals.

PS: i now hold the patent to this theory.Copy of this theory and usage on your name would breach the copyright rules and you might have to face the consequences for it. Someone would just get bored and hit you for it


Friday, 12 February 2010

Love is all about YOU

From Political dramas to comparing cities, from all the negativities to LOVE. Definitely this topic would have surprised you all, but LOVE is the flavor of the season. After all it’s Valentine’s Day in a couple of days. This day is really important cause no matter how much you love your partner, missing out to wish them on this day would surely raise a question mark on your love. So no matter how much you gift them the whole year, a gift on this day is must. Sounds crazy to me and I know you will hate me for it .

Anyways I guess I got diverted as I do not wish to speak on Valentine’s Day but LOVE. It is such a strong feeling which we tend to use so casually and immaturely. Guys in their teens see a girl and fall in love without knowing their names. And I am sure most of you would agree that its stupid. I believe you cannot love somebody without knowing that person completely with both the right and wrong of the person. But this is not what love is all about. its not just knowing each other but a far more than that.

Love surely is Respect. You cannot love a person you do not respect. So love definitely is not just we not insulting the person but also unable to bear if someone else does so. But this is some feeling that I see so uncommon in today’s love affairs. We bitch n crib about our partners to others and thus costing them the respect people should have for them. I would certainly not only avoid speaking ill about my love to someone but would also stop if somebody tries to do so. Love is all about You and your respect.

Love surely is sacrifice and giving. Something which is again so uncommon. We, in this fight for survival, have somehow become so self centered that we tend to forget Love is all about giving. Its about your happiness. They say if your LOVE is not happy with you, just let them free and they will surely be back and if they are not that means they truly are happy without you and if you really love them, let them be happy. No it doesn’t mean we all should try this out but its an extent to which we can go. But we are so fond of ourselves and so used to fighting for our rights that we forget that Love is a privilege and not a right to fight for.

Love is something above our ego. Love is something above our adamancy. Love is something which is pure. Love is something that is sacred. And please do not feel I am writing this after watching a couple of romantic bollywood films. it’s just in the Let’s get back to business and philosophy.

And this Valentine’s Day may we all pledge to make the lives of the people we love better. May we realize what true love is. May we strike a balance between bollywood films and true life . And we remember that LOVE is all about YOU. It never was and will never be about me or us. Its jus YOU.

Happy Valentine’s Day to the people I love and to the people in love.


PS: Please comment if this post was super-boring or otherwise.